Mental Health Matters

It has been a while since I have written anything. For a while I haven't known what to say. I have been doing my best to prioritize doing what makes me happy and making sure my standards are as high as stilettos. This saying goes for personal life, work life, educations, any type of relationship, etc. While I have been focusing a lot of my self love and love life; I have not held myself to the same standards in my work life.

Small recap: After I graduated college I took a full-time job with a family friend as a Communication Manager. It was ok at first, but I could tell there was some instability in the environment and the job itself. I began looking for other jobs but was unsure of what I was looking for. Recently the job has taken a turn for the worse. My position has completely changed in the aspect that I have basically been picking up the slack for other people in the office rather than focusing on communication. Following that, I haven now been contacted multiple times after work hours and yelled at for not answering on weekends or my free time after work. I hate to say how negatively this has impacted my life. My motivation to do many things has gone down which has been affecting the confidence I have in myself as well as feeling depressed.

So how do you tell people to keep your standards high when you haven't held yourself to that advice?

A few things I have done so far: communicate my feelings to my close friends and family, ask for advice in Facebook groups, and obviously begin searching harder for a new job. A lot of the advice I have received has been to quit my job, but the free that I don't have something to fall back on is just as stressful, especially when your financial situation isn't the greatest. I think sometimes people need to consider if the smart decision also aligns with the best decision for your mental health. Some other advice I have received is that being in tough situations like this helps you grow more and that your happiness will come eventually. I have to say, I don't believe that for a second. I believe that you should always strive for the best in any situation. Don't wait around for something amazing to happen. You won't get a tap on the shoulder if something good is within your grasp. You need to reach out and take what you want. People always say our 20s are for being selfish, but I think your 20s teaches you when it is appropriate to be selfish for the rest of your life.

Some people, like me, may also be struggling with not knowing exactly what you want to do. At 21 years old, I have only experienced so much, so how do I know what I want to do for the rest of my life? I was given the recommendation to read "Find your Purpose". I have not read it yet but I just purchased it and can't wait to dive into it. As well as that I have been told to prioritize my hobbies, things that I do after work and what make me happy to do. Some of these hobbies can be real indications on how to develop in your professional life.

Everyone needs the reminder to Keep your standards as high as your stilettos, including myself. Remember that your happiness can only come from you so make sure you prioritize yourself in every situation.